What would I tell my younger self…?
- God's Businesswoman
- 5 days ago
- 3 min read
20+ years later…
There’s a quote that says: “the way you do one thing, is the way you do all things.”
My phone has an intrusive morning quality of giving me an unsanctioned blast from the past. Some are welcomed with laughs, “thank You Jesus…” while others are met with ranged emotions not void of tears.
I have the wonderful opportunity to facilitate discussion with my younger self often through my mentoring groups. Although, all are not younger by years but receive a tool, skill or insight in an area I’ve been fortunate to complete.
I am Next for Teen Girls
SOULY for Women
I am NEXT College Program for Women
Each group serves very different purposes yet render significantly similar results, change. In my observation, people often struggle with change but it’s inevitable. Seasons change, people change, circumstances change. So, it’s best to make what’s changing work for you.
Ending with today’s quote & question both in mind, I would tell myself, what’s been was supposed to happen but where you are going isn’t necessarily where you are supposed to be. Always look up & at any time be willing to PIVOT.
What does this have to do with, “the way you do one thing is the way you do all things…?”
If you adapt daily that change is inevitable and will not shake you but instead consistently endeavor to show up & head in the direction slated for you, you will end where you are supposed to be. Somehow…some way…it all works itself out in the end.
Recap for the road:
Consistency shapes destiny.
I thought it non-coincidental when a picture from two decades ago looked similar to today. Minus curvier cheekbones & a few grey streaks, the essence of the photo was the same. I had a heart & passion for community then, it showed up the same present day.
The quote, “the way you do one thing is the way you do all things,” anchors the message. Our habits, posture, and faithfulness in small, ordinary moments become the framework for how we navigate major transitions. Consistency doesn’t mean rigidity—it means commitment.
Change is not the enemy—but resistance may seem to be
Despite the struggle, change isn’t just inevitable, it is necessary. I love a good article, once recently highlighted that resistance in exercise actually builds muscle despite the way it may feel arduous & uncomfortable. Like many, I’ve had my day with resistance. Be it circumstances surrounding a God given assignment &/or people, places or things affiliated with the work, I ultimately decided this is an opportunity to strength train but not give up.
The wisdom offered here isn’t to avoid change, but to work with it, to let it refine rather than rattle.
Mentorship is time travel with purpose.
I love mentorship! I often say, “show me your mentor, & I’ll show you your future.” Yes, most can be successful without mentorship but if you can have support, why not take it?
I have been fortunate enough to engage my “younger self” through mentoring—across teen girls, college women, and adult women—& I’ve learned wisdom multiplies when it’s shared. Each demographic (teens, college degree seeking women of all ages, & SOULY for Women ages 32 & up), we always encourage them to reach back to give back, as someone needs what you have been blessed to attain. Though the audiences differ, the outcome is the same: transformation. That’s powerful & necessary to me.
Pivoting is not failure; it’s obedience.
The most poignant takeaway is this: where you’ve been was necessary, but it may not be where you’re meant to stay. The willingness to look up, reassess, and pivot is framed as courage, not instability.
Trust the process—even when it doesn’t make sense yet.
Today’s closing sentiment reinforces holding Faith over fear: if we accept change as part of the journey and keep showing up with intention, clarity will come. Not always immediately—but eventually, everything aligns.
I hope this HERspace blog encourages readers to live anchored but flexible—rooted in purpose, open to redirection, and unafraid to pivot when growth requires it. It’s wisdom earned, not rushed, and generously passed forward.
Love you all…this has been:
& by the way, the picture on the right was from my college days at Winthrop University!
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